It breaks my heart when I see some of the queries people use to reach my blog or website. The other day, someone found my blog using the query wwjd unhappy marriage. I know nothing of the person who typed this query, but in my mind I see a young mother sitting at the computer with a baby in her lap. Her husband is at work now, but last night he said something that upset her. She fired something back at him and he just laughed. So, today, she’s sitting there with her baby sucking on a bottle and she types wwjd unhappy marriage into a search engine. I hurt for her. Or maybe it’s a him. Either way, I feel for this person and I wonder if he found a good answer. I’m not sure that my blog provided the best answer, but shouldn’t a Christian author be able to answer the question, what would Jesus do in an unhappy marriage?
If we look at what Jesus said, we see in Matthew 19:6 that he said concerning a husband and wife, “Therefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Then in verse 9 he says, “Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery; and whoso marrieth her who is put away doth commit adultery.” It is hard for some people to accept, but if an unhappy marriage is the only problem, Jesus would be against divorce. Find a way to love each other and work through the problems.
Of course, you could be thinking, Jesus was single when he said that. What would he do if he were married? For that answer, we go to the Old Testament. The Book of Hosea contains the story upon which I based For the Love of a Devil. Hosea, through his own marriage, paints a picture of God’s “marriage” to Israel. This marriage is as far from a happy marriage as you can get, but it is the most beautiful love story in the Bible. God sends Hosea to marry a woman that he knows is trouble. Hosea finds Gomer and she seems content to stay with him for a while. She has three kids, but it isn’t real clear how many were Hosea’s. In any case, Hosea named them all, as if they were his own. Gomer left Hosea to be with other men. She thought they could give her more than Hosea could, but Hosea kept his eye on her and looked after her. It appears that Hosea may have given some of these men money and other things so they could take care of Gomer. But he withdrew his support for a while, so that the men left her. Perhaps for someone younger and prettier, and with more money. Without their support, Gomer fell into slavery. And then the Bible tells us that God told Hosea, to go love her. Hosea goes to the slave market. He buys his wife back. That is what Jesus would do and has done in an unhappy marriage.
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I work with infidelity as a spiritual psychotherapist. The pain and deep psychological hurt that this does to a couple is unbelievable and in some cases unsurmountable. God can and does heal these wounds and only through forgiveness can couples recreate and rediscover who they are as a marriage. Two shall become one and all of the tennets of the Bible have not been taken seriously by the world. People get into relationships and marriage way too easily without discernment, prayer or any kind of thought as to what they are getting themselves into. Then children come along and still no discernment about parenting issues, parental rules etc. You know how it goes. I am not judging anyone or want to judge anyone but How is it that we require a licence to drive, marriage but there is no discussions or any course for having children. I stand on the side of the unborn. I have worked with so many children, adults etc that have so much pain because they were not wanted or loved or neglected abused. What is wrong with the world that we treat our children so horribly and not only that treat our animals better? I am not saying we should treat animals bad. I am saying that we need to take responsability for our actions not just condemn the people who find themselves pregnant alone and unwed. Jesus loves all people and even those who do not believe in him. Jesus is a being and a human being that tried to bring love into a legalistic immorral world. People have choices and can choose the path of the righteous or the path to the road to damnation. But either paths have a fail safe, that is there is mercy and forgiveness there for those that confess their sins to the Lord and ask to be forgiven. Jesus died for our sins. My chains are gone they have been set free, My Lord, my God has ransomed me. I feel so strongly about those that feel that a person in a situation is damned for life. It is wrong to judge, if we are truly honest we all make mistakes, big ones and the world needs to find some compassion, empathy and love for the wounded instead of making the situation worse with judgement. I am who I am. I am who I will be the name of Yahweh. This applies to people, we are who we are and we are who we will be. There is always a path back to God always no matter what situation any person finds themself in. Nothing is too shameful, too ugly too unworthy to be healed by the LOrd. Nothing. I know I have been a professional working with others who have deep wounds. I say as long as there is life there is hope. The Bible says Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I shall not be afraid. There is nothing to fear with God. God is love but God will not spare anyone the consequences of their actions and this in turn has a big impact on someone's life. Compassion not Judgement. Love not war. Peace not hatred. Anyways in this crazy world love is drowned out by the noise of media, sex, hate, violence etc etc. I will testify to Love until I die. I will be a witness in the silence to love and dare to be different. I will honour my savour by my voice, acts and love. I hope that people will finally listen to the words...LOVE THY NEIGHBOUR AS THYSELF. YOu have to love yourself, know love and then you can love another. I know, I know I sound like a preacher. I stand on my faith and relationship with Jesus.
Jesus would love no matter what!
Sincerely,
A Healer of Souls
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